Most often when we talk about expressing our emotions in a healthy way, we are talking about anger. This emotion is most likely to make us lash out in an inappropriate or even dangerous way. We have probably all had a moment in our life where we lashed out in anger and then regretted it – either instantly or after some reflection.
One important thing to remember is that feeling anger is totally fine and natural. It is highly unlikely that one would go through life without feeling anger from time to time. Don’t feel guilty because you feel angry! On its own, it isn’t bad at all. In fact, learning how to express and deal with your anger is healthy.
Here are a couple of ways that you can start expressing your anger in a more helpful manner:
Having someone in your life that you can vent to is super therapeutic. I am sure you have all had a moment when you were stewing in rage, and then after talking with a friend you instantly feel better. Your friend is likely to provide a different outlook on the situation that may give you a new perspective. Plus, the simple act of talking about what angers you can diffuse you. Be careful that you aren’t venting about the same issue over and over again though.
In this day and age, keeping a journal is so easy. With our phones, laptops, tablets we almost always have the ability to journal at any moment. Apps like Evernote and Day One make journaling a breeze, and allow you to access your thoughts anywhere you can get on the internet. Keeping a journal is much like venting to a friend. It is somewhere you can blow off steam by letting your thoughts and frustrations out. One benefit of a journal over venting to a friend is the fact you can say whatever the heck you want in your journal without being judged.
When you get angered by something – take a second. It might be a cliché, but taking ten seconds to calm down with ensuring that you don’t get caught in the moment and make things worse by snapping. Ten seconds is the common suggestion, but don’t be afraid to take a few minutes or even remove yourself completely from the situation.
Anger is something we all have to deal with, don’t bottle it up or pretend it doesn’t exist. Express it in a positive way using one of the three techniques we shared.